Sunday, August 28, 2011

 "Sure, it’s hard for me, but military life is harder for that 26-year-old mother or father with two small kids and unfinished educational dreams to attain. The reservoir of compassion and respect I have for those going through this while in their 20s is unending. They’re the next greatest generation. If only America would love them more."
Thanks to Doug Irving at the OC Register for kicking off a four part series on military families in Orange County. He and Tom Berg, along with others have written articles about a range of family issues and war. I was pleased to be asked to write a short essay on what it's like to make the transformation from civilian to military family in middle age.
Please read the article here: An Army Doctor's Wife Explains War in Middle Age

Saturday, August 20, 2011

The School At Ground Zero: "It was like a giant communal scream."

"People are dying, but everyone here is going to be okay." -Teacher at the school near ground zero.

An absolute much-watch.
A teacher from PS 150 Tribeca Learning Center near ground zero says it was "like a giant communal scream." These teachers, who were in charge of hundreds of children and scared parents, thought heroically as they tried to maintain order and calm in the midst of chaos of 9/11. The Dart Society Reports is a new online magazine, covering trauma, conflict and human rights.  This first issue features this documentary of journalist and parent Jacques Menasche.
"Jacques Menasche, who produced a documentary and text on the effects of 9/11 on his son’s first-grade class at a school near ground zero in New York City.
Children, Menasche writes, have largely been excluded from the event’s history: “They present a problem for a journalist, a messy gray area of memory and trauma. Today, when it remains difficult to fully understand the extraordinary violence of September 11, 2001 — even for those of us who were there — how much less can we understand its effects on others, especially when those others are children, five and six years old, first-graders, only on the liminal cusp of memory?”
View this documentary here at the Dart Society Reports

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Stuck in the social networking wedge: Really? Is that it?

Recently, a friend and I have taken to chatting on the phone, rather than just being online.
We notice so much anger.
I shake my head over the identity wedges social networking forces people to choose. Political, educational, social, by hobby, religion, by sexuality, by service. Aren't we more complex and beautiful than that, and aren't we worth discovering ourselves beyond the restrictions of those fill-in boxes?

Everyone has inside him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is! ~ Anne Frank
Astonishing beauty: the glass ceiling at The Bellagio


Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Silver Balls Cancelled By US Marines: Potential to massacre zombies takes a hit

The Danger Room brings us this news on a contract recently cancelled by the U.S. Marines. A pair of silver balls being driven by Marines could have been the biggest psychological statement on wheels, as well as an effective device to scare zombies. Weep for loss of the Ball-Mobile.


Great article on Getting Bin Laden.


Saturday was a bad day. 38 people killed --30 US Troops, 7 Afghan Commandos and 1 Civilian Translator plus 1 highly trained dog shot down in Wardak province. Seal Team Six members were among those lost.

If you haven't read The Mission To Get Osama Bin Laden, now is the time to read about the bravery of such men. Getting Bin Laden by Nicholas Schmidle. In The New Yorker.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

It's Not Just A House

A few years ago, our daughter asked me why we didn't have a new house. "One of those big ones, where everything works and all the bedrooms have bathrooms," she said.

Daughter didn't realize the impact of her words. To her, a real home was where the walls matched, there were no electrical cords snaked around rooms, and where the upstairs was heated as evenly as the downstairs. In other words, a house not like ours. I didn't say too much. For most of her friends, life in a gated community with matching garage doors and a bunch of rules is all they've ever known. It's not a bad way of life. One can't knock the notion of having one light switch instead of three, a laundry room in the main house, or walls that aren't a combination of new stucco and old paint. Instead, I shrugged. Then went back to cleaning the kitchen which hasn't changed since they day it was built.

Our house was finished in 1940 --a young sprog compared to the homes of many of my friends in the east, as well as the adobe house my husband was raised in. But around here, 1940 is charitably considered vintage. The couple who built this house, Dr. and Mrs. Cortez, were a young couple from Utah --children of farmers. They moved here after Dr. Cortez finished his PhD from MIT in electrical engineering. His job was at the local community college teaching science or engineering. They first owned a small house in downtown. Then, in 1938, they had the plans drawn up for this house.

It was a simple plan, and to many, the home reminds them of something found at Disneyland. It makes sense, since the workman who built this California interpretation of a Colonial house would someday be called upon to build Walt Disney's dream not too far away. The house looks like something that would fit in perfectly across from Carnation Plaza at Disneyland. As a friend remarked while standing upstairs, "My God, everything here is 7/8 scale!"  Anyway, the house can only be described as a rabbit's warren of small rooms. There are lots of doors, loads of trimwork, and built ins throughout the house.  The professor and his wife Elle even planned for a balcony off the bedroom. The better to see the hills out back, which then, were only dotted with wild grasses and cows. The view back then had to have been like one of those California impressionist paintings.

Construction was started but then fate intervened. The young professor was called to Washington DC by the US Navy to come work on secret this and that. Mrs. Cortez had barely gotten her pans in when they had to move. Lock, stock and barrel, they high tailed to Philadelphia, where Dr. Cortez and the family stayed for the duration of the war.  They rented the house to a variety of families, corresponding only by mail. At times Dr. Cortez thought of selling the house. But Elle would say, "Over my dead body!"

The war ended, and sure enough, they came back home. The local community college was the beneficiary of plenty of GI's on the GI Bill, and so the good professor set to work. Teaching classes, then several years as its Dean. His wife went to work for Walt Disney. The woman who lived in a 7/8 scale house, went to work everyday as Disneyland's first nurse. They raised two daughters and a son, enjoyed life after the war, during a time of growth and prosperity. They planted a garden, their son roamed the hills with his friends. Dr. Cortez made a few adjustments to the house. The most curious one was cutting a small door between the garage and the laundry room. It measure 18" by 72" Not very big, but you see, they were neither tall nor wide. We still use it today.

Life was good, until Dr. Cortez died playing golf. Their son was all of 13. It was a difficult time, and I'm sure everyone looked at Elle as though she were going to move. Of course, she didn't. The house she and her husband had so lovingly planned and built, grew old with her. Eventually, she married again, changing her last name. Her new husband built a behemoth brick grill in the back yard --the kind you see in old movies. They aged together, and then one day, he died too. Again, everyone thought Elle would move, but she didn't. When the stairs got too hard to walk, she closed up the upstairs bedrooms and moved into the room where I'm writing this post. There's a daybed in here now, and I like to think of this as Elle's room.

Anyway, Elle only moved when her health was failing. Her children moved her into a nursing home. When she died,  her son kept the house --turning it into a rental.  Finally, twelve years later, he put it on the market. None of the realtors would deal with him. They said he wanted too much money.

 I drove past on a Monday and called him. He rushed up from his home by the ocean. "There was something in your voice that just sounded right," he said. I walked around, and like the character in the Cary Grant movie, fell in love like Jim Blandings. I knew this was an emotional sale. I also knew he had not one, but three offers to buy it. I could offer less, but then risk not owning it. A house like this doesn't come on the market everyday, especially in a region beset by gated communities.  By Wednesday, we had purchased it. The day it cleared escrow, he had to sign some papers. He faltered. He didn't want to sell it. We promised not to change too much --he said he'd like that very much. We have lived here for ten years. It hasn't changed too much, but every time I think of doing something, I wonder if the good professor and his wife would approve.

For sure, we've had our downtime with this house. The most notable was the day Elle's balcony leaked into the kitchen during a rainstorm.  Our kids, ever resourceful, responded by breaking out an umbrella --unperturbed while eating their cereal.  Daughter, whether she realizes it or not, is part of the history of this house. We are the second war family to own this house. When my husband upped and ran away to the Army at the age of 52, moving was not an option. "Over my dead body," I thought when the suggestion came to sell it. (You don't reach my age and not get stubborn).

Granted, It's not an easy home to live in, but unlike the homes where each one looks the same, it has character shaped by the times. No doubt, one day when my spirit is hovering up in heaven, she and her brother might sell the house to some other family. I just hope she's able to tell them the history of the house, as it was told to me by the professor's son.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Richard Sullivan's VJ Day, Honolulu HI, August 14, 1945


 Richard Sullivan has graced the world with some footage his father took on VJ Day in 1945. For my younger readers, VJ stands for Victory Over Japan. Sullivan explains the whole process of having the 16mm film transferred to the digital format in his post. Sullivan also shares some stills on his website Discovering Hawaii (which doesn't sound like a bad idea right now).  This film footage is a wonderful collection of sights and sounds from that important day. We are so lucky Sullivan was dogged in getting this transferred over.

Watching this struck a poignant chord: we all want a Victory day, as exuberant and final as was this one. Call it a VA Day or a VI Day, we miss not having a time where we knew that the opportunity to move forward and build our own nature was finally at hand.

Don't get me wrong: I support the mission we're in. But watching this takes us to a much different time, one that doesn't exist anymore. Nostalgia is said to be the death knell of reality or moving forward. And so it is that I roll up my sleeves, push forward, make plans to send more boxes, make a few phone calls to soldiers I know having a tough time, give thanks to those people who give and give and give, and power on. Bravo Zulu, Richard Sullivan!


VJ Day, Honolulu Hawaii, August 14, 1945 from Richard Sullivan on Vimeo.   h/t J Scott Shipman, who always has swell posts.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

On Solid Ground: What Drives The War Photographers' Retreat

Today, I'm sending you over to a blog I've been working with Marine GF Jillian Hunsanger on at The War Photographers' Retreat.
Find out what drives this retreat. It's pretty interesting. I think you'll enjoy it. (By the way, Dave Emerson has created 2 more slots. Apply if you qualify).

Then make a donation. We're collecting funds to help pay for expenses. There's no charge for the retreat itself --10 war photographers & journalists along with their spouses are being treated gratis to 4 days of yoga, massage, and acupuncture. Homestays are being offered to those who don't want to stay in a hotel. The community of Cambridge MA is really putting itself out for this event.
Jillian

Our expenses are to help pay for the celebration BBQ, gamely being hosted by David Emerson's in-laws, printing expenses, and also to get our intern Jillian out there from Michigan. Not only is Jillian a trauma-sensitive yoga teacher interested in working with the veteran population, she's applying to get her graduate degree at the University of Southern California with a focus on military social work and veteran services. USC is the only school of social work to offer this focus. Her internship at the sponsoring organization putting on the retreat, Black Lotus Yoga Project, is essential to her application.

So when you're done, hit the "5-ways to donate" button on the menu of the War Photographers' retreat.
Thanks!

Jillian found this. Cracked us up. It looks like me and her!

Monday, August 1, 2011

Kandahar Air Field Hospital Video: What They Do

Last week, the hubs explained that part of the reason so many soldiers have been saved is an entire country will be used as an ER for just one injured person. In other words, from the battlefield, they're brought to the closest combat hospital or forward surgical team. The team assesses the situation, operates to get things started, then quickly sends them on their way to the next biggest hospital. From there, they are worked on more, stabilized again, and then sent to Germany or the U.S. It's not uncommon for a wounded warrior to be out of the theater completely within 24 hours.

The other fact that we have all known is the majority of patients at these facilities are the local nationals. This includes soldiers and civilians. Here is a video someone did at Kandahar Air Field Combat Support Hospital. I'm incredibly grateful to the men and women who do this work.